If you were following me on Facebook or Instagram last week, you will have noticed a few photos completely unrelated to what we normally have. I attended my first ever blogging conference ProBlogger. While sharing what I learn at ProBlogger is not a usual style of post for The Builder’s Wife, these lessons can be applied to anyone, in any stage of life.
This was my first real conference since my pharmacy days, where you always knew the regular crowd of people going. Since suffering a blow to my confidence levels, I was actually very anxious about attending this event. I had grow into the type of person who was shy, had a fear of crowds, and can be generally quite uncomfortable with myself. This year for me is all about pushing my boundaries, and so with the love and support of Adam, off I went.
Forever The Builder’s Wife!
Here are the 10 lessons I learnt.
1. Bloggers Do Not Look Like Their Profile Pictures
I thought I would have this in the bag, I am generally pretty good at remembering names and faces, that was until I realised that, that little picture in the corner of the blog, Instagram or Facebook, just doesn’t really show who someone is. In real life nearly everyone looks a little different. On more than one occasion, it took me a little bit to remember who I was speaking too.
2. I Don’t Know Many of The Bloggers Real Names
I was really surprised at how many ‘real’ names I didn’t know, preferring to call most by their blog names. I also found that if I introduced myself as Nicole, most didn’t have a clue until I said, Hi, I’m Nicole from the Builder’s Wife, and then it clicked. I have become my blog!
3. I am Shyer Than I Thought
There were times, when bloggers I have long admired would be close by and a moment would present itself for me to say hi, and in most cases I just couldn’t. I have elevated these bloggers so highly in my mind that I really struggled not to be star struck and just say hi! I found myself retreating to the safety of my phone and publicly hiding, before taking a deep breath and moving on.
4. Bloggers Are A Friendly Mob
I met so many wonderfully friendly women, who were happy to take me under their wing. I felt supported, and encouraged. These beautiful people remember what it’s like to be at the beginning of this blogging journey, and were quick to provide advice and constructive criticism.
I cannot thank Eden from Edenland enough for so graciously wiping away my tears, when I was so overwhelmed to meet her.
5. Other Bloggers Are Shy Also
After a few glasses of the old dutch courage, I bustled my way up to a few big name bloggers, to say hi, and really let them know how wonderful I find them to be. On more than one of these occasions, I totally overwhelmed these women. You see, just because I elevate these people in my mind to be nothing short of a celebrity, doesn’t mean this is something they feel about themselves. While my fangirling was appreciated, I was struck by how humble these celebrities were.
6. I’m Not Good At Drinking Bubbles
On Friday night, we had a cocktail party, a wonderful cocktail party with the most attentive staff I’ve ever seen. So attentive, that every time you took a sip out of your glass of bubbles, your glass would be topped up. Here comes the rookie error……..I didn’t eat, I was having so much fun socialising with my friends new and old, and before I knew it, it was 11pm, and I was feeling a little less than great. Quickly stumbling back to my room, I ordered room service in some lame attempt to sober up. It didn’t work and to say Saturday started rough, would be an understatement!
7. I Have A New Focus
Not only do I have a new focus, my inspiration coming out of this even is Focus. We were encouraged to look at why we blog, we were poked, prodded, pulled and stretched and I’ve come out of this event with a clearer vision than I had before. I have some wonderful new things planed for you my reader, information and clarity for us all alike.
8. Facebook Forum
Later this week I will be opening a Facebook group, a place for you all to feel safe enough to ask any question you might like to ask. All information will be treated with respect and Adam and I will be giving our advice for free. Questions from how much to expect to pay for a bathroom to what does this mean in my contract, will be answered with the hope that this supportive forum will provide you the opportunity to feel empowered throughout the building process. DIY questions are also welcome.
9. I Really Need A Breakfast Chef
I could really get used to this having a breakfast chef thing. Coming home to reality, really bit hard on Sunday morning when I had to get up and make everyone’s breakfast as normal. Perhaps my favourite part of being at the conference was breakfast, lunch, dinner and all means in-between being someone elses responsibility. It was amazing!
10. I Found My Tribe
I’ve found my tribe, right there with all those like minded people. I felt excepted, like these people really ‘got me’. Special thanks to Kirsten and Co, Have a Laugh On Me, Cooker and a Looker, Our Town Brisbane, Mrs D Plus 3, Calm to Conniption, The Plumbette, Land of Zonkt, Boiled Eggs and Soilders, Fresh Home Cook, DIY Decorator The Annoyed Thyroid and the many, many more who are my tribe.
Should you have the opportunity to attend a conference, or meet up with a like minded group of individuals, please, please do it! I have never felt so supported, and accepted as I do now and just as importantly I feel refresh, and energised. I have had so many business ideas since I came home! All to service you our readers, ideas to make your lives simpler, to ease a burden, all thanks to the inspiration received by simply meeting good people.
Are you a conference goer? Would you consider yourself to be an introvert? What are your hot tips for handling crowds?