We’ve had a really busy, strange start to the year this year. It has been a roller coaster of emotions. Two weeks ago, was an especially highly charged week, that resulted in The Builder needing to work on a Saturday. Usually this means a busy day for me of ferrying children to and from sport as well getting all those pesky jobs around the house done. Alternatively, I will also work for the day.
I have always had a problem with switching off, especially when The Builder is busy working. I find it hard to justify having a break myself when there is so much to do. That particular Saturday, I was having a shower prior to helping get the kids out of the house, when I realised that I simply couldn’t do it. I couldn’t face another day of work for the week. I needed some space.
An idea began to grow and I made the decision to create a Me day. A day spent doing all those solo things that I loved to do. To give myself permission to take some time out. Not a decision made lightly as I had so very much to do, but one that I felt was absolutely necessary for my sanity.
So, after bidding farewell to the children and The Builder, I set off on my adventure. First stop on my me day, the flower markets, my most favourite place to visit and shop. I spent a gorgeous half an hour strolling around the markets finding my favourite flowers.
From there I visited my favourite shopping centre, determined to buy myself some new candles. While I was there I visited the book shop and purchased a book to read. A little bit more shopping before finally heading home. It was lunch time once home, and I made myself a fresh salad without fear of kids complaining that it was too healthy, too much green, I don’t like tomatoes.
I spent much of the afternoon faffing about, rearranging a few vignettes with music playing and candles burning. It was lovely, quiet and serene. The builder and the children returned home late in the afternoon and rather than focusing on the kids, we took a few moments together to grab a wine each and share a few drinks.
And then it hit me, while I had taken my me day, I had still been focusing on making my family happy as well as myself. I wanted to create a fresh warm environment for them to come home to after a full day at work. I thought I had missed what I set out to create for the day, a day about me. But in writing this today, I realised that I actually had exactly what I needed, a day about me and a day about my family because the 2 are so closely entwined, I find it impossible to separate one from the other. I am Nicole, wife mother and friend, all of which make me who I am.
Do you ever feel this way? What do you do to take time out for yourself? Had a me day lately?