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Equipping Our Children – The Making of Good Tradespeople

Equipping Our Children – The Making of Good Tradespeople

The Making Of Good Tradespeople

Today I dropped my 19 year old daughter off at the Queensland Police Headquarters, for her entrance exam. My daughter has a fierce determination to serve and protect our country. When she was denied entrance to the Royal Australian Air Force last year, simply due to being lactose intolerant, her first thought was not of self-pity, sure maybe a feeling of unjust, but very quickly, to what her next step would be.
In high school, my daughter wanted to be a vet, she knew she would not receive the OP required to achieve entrance into university to study to become a vet, so decided to do a degree that would allow her a position above the usual vet nurse. Although she received the OP require to secure a position in this course, so did too many other students, and long story short, she missed out on a place. Again there was no self-pity, just a regrouping and new focus.

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When I put it on paper, it sounds like a bit of a raw deal, but do you know, how very grateful I am that these things went wrong for my daughter? More than I know how to express, and why? Because these opportunities to reflect and redirect herself have created a resilient, strong and passionate young woman, who is well equipped to deal with the normal everyday curveballs of life.
What has all this got to do with a building and construction blog? I am trying to demonstrate what a positive it is to allow children the opportunity to fail, stumble and fall, as long as they have to pick themselves up. If we as parents are there to cushion their fall, every. single. time. How are they to grow and learn from their mistakes?
Sure it is our responsibility to keep them safe, but if we wrap them up in cotton wool, how do they ever learn risk assessment? Imagine if we employed an apprentice, who didn’t have the ability to assess the risk in his working environment? I would have lost my home by now to pay for his medical bills, or his wages for ever once he was seriously injured.

In dealing with tradies all day every day, I need to have faith and confidence in their ability to risk assess, if these skills haven’t been developed prior to starting on our site, we are in for some real trouble!
As employers, there are times in which we allow our apprentice to make mistakes. Again these are important for him to learn furthermore, when he does make a mistake our job is not to solve them for him, but to be patient and allow him the opportunity to sort the mistake, and take responsibility for it himself. It is our opinion that this then creates better tradespeople, and that is our responsibility as employers.
Do you allow your children to make mistakes? What do you think makes for strong, resilient people?
Nicole xxx

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  1. No mistake is really a mistake, not if you learn something from it anyway! I think mistakes are wonderful opportunities for growing and learning, and as you so rightly point out, allow us to take responsibility for our actions and develop problem solving skills. I wish your daughter every success – she’s lucky to have you as her cheer squad!

    1. I agree!! It’s the best way to learn. xx

  2. How exciting for your daughter! I hope the entrance exam went well. I’m sure you were very proud. I agree it’s important to let kids make their own mistakes and learn from them no matter how hard it can be for you as a parent to step back x

    1. That’s so true Renee, stepping back is often the biggest challenge when a parent xx

  3. I think our challenges make us stronger in the end. SO yeah, kids have got to learn to fight through the challenges or they’ll lack resilience. We’ve got to let them stuff up from time to time! (Although that can be damn hard to watch as a parent … damn hard)

    1. You are so right Leanne! It’s really tough to let them fail, even just a little. xx

  4. I hope your daughter did well with her exam. And what a great example she is to show resilience. x

    1. Thank you Bec xx

  5. If you don’t fail, how you leant and get better. Not achieving everything the time time around leaves room for improvement. If you think you know it all (because you have not felt what it is like to fail), you will not flourish into the person you could be. Great post #teamIBOT

    1. Thank you Natalie. xx

  6. Equipping them for all the curve balls that life can throw is a really tricky thing. Sounds to me like you’ve done a great job instilling resilience and positivity.

    High five for parenting win!

    1. Oh thank you Angie, not always easy, but we all do our best xx

  7. Resilience and the ability to problem solve is so important. They are life skills that I am not sure a lot of our kids are actually getting. We talk a lot about not being a bully and how being a bully is bad (which it is!) But I do feel from my involvement in a lot of these programs we forget the flip side which is how to problem solve to change your situation and how to be resilient and think about things from a different perspective.
    When I was teaching I would always tell my seniors that of course they should do their very best and try their very hardest to get the marks they want. However, their lives will not ever be defined by one set of exams or one mistake it is how you move on from that point in time that will define you in life.

    1. That’s a really interesting point you make Cathy. If we are always preventing then in some ways it’s the same as stopping them from falling or making mistakes. It sure is a balancing act! xx

  8. Yes, yes, yes!! Thank you for this! I am a big believer in letting kids experience their own struggles, conflicts and disappointments, and not shielding them too much from the emotional consequences of that. Be there to support them in the aftermath, sure, but not totally protect them from any kind of emotional discomfort. Great post.

    1. Thank you! Great to know I am not the only one, as some days when I watch my friends and their kids, it feels like I am. xx

  9. Yep, another fan of resilience here – we need to learn how to bend but not break. Stuff happens in life and we need to be able to deal with that ourselves – not always looking to higher-ups to solve our problems. Best wishes for your daughter.

    1. So true Alix, stuff happens, and we need to learn how to pick ourselves up and dust ourselves off. It can be tough, but life goes on! Thank you for your kind wishes. x

  10. I just had a conversation last night with my daughter who was upset with herself for making a (big) mistake and went through the whole thing about that’s how we learn and next time know not to do it again. Also that everybody makes mistakes too. Wishing your daughter all the best with the Police too. x

    1. The Builder always tells the kids when they have made a mistake, that they didn’t fail just found a way of not doing something. If nothing else it makes them smile. I hope you daughter is feeling better now xx

  11. Your daughter sounds like she has a clear and determined head on her shoulders. You have done well! I hope it all goes well for her.

    1. Thank you so much Karin, that’s a very kind thing to say xx

  12. Your daughter certainly has incredible resiliance to pick herself up after each disappointment and set her goals elsewhere. One of the most important things I’ve learned in life is that we learn the most from mistakes, failures and disappointments in life. I hope it all goes well for her with her entrance exam today! ?

    1. It’s so true isn’t Min. Right in the moment of it happening, it can feel like the world is falling apart, BUT there is always a reason for it, even though it might take a while for it to show itself. What doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger is her motto xx

  13. Wow, your daughter truly is an inspiration! She seems like such a determined spirit, who doesn’t take ‘no’ for an answer. Great job, mama! <3 I hope everything went well with her entrance exam, and she’s well on her way to accomplishing her dreams.

    I definitely think allowing our children to stumble and fall, and pick themselves back up is so important. Yesterday my 11 month old was playing on the living room floor as I was cooking breakfast. He’s now cruising along furniture, and I suddenly heard him cry out. I come running, to see he has completely face planted on the floor. I rush over to pick him up, but before I get there, I see that he starts picking himself back up. He sits up, and has a huge grin on his face, before climbing back up on the couch!
    Not exactly the same thing, but that really was my first lesson in giving my son his independence. Sometimes, I think it’s harder on us moms!
    Thanks for sharing <3

    1. Savannah, I think it is exactly the same!! only relevant to where the child is at, at the time. Walking with the aid of furniture is such an important thing for your baby, it will consume their mind, much like this process and it’s challenges have for my daughter.
      You are so right, you just received a great lesson in parenting and again you’re right, it is 10x harder for us then it is for them.Our hearts break a little time.
      Thanks for dropping by xx

  14. It’s funny, cause I hate failing myself, but I was nodding as I read this because I agree wholeheartedly. Setbacks and failures are where we learn, even if they aren’t very nice.
    Such a pity she missed out on the airforce cause of an intolerance. Hope the police exam went well. x

    1. It was a really big thing in the moment, to miss out for a simple intolerance that can be avoided, but policy is policy and I am sure it means she’s on the direction she needs to be. Thank you for dropping by xx

  15. To Stumble, make judgements wrong or right, builds character, Miss R, can only move forward, what determination, she has good Role Models in her life to give her the strengths needed to achieve her choices, it may not have been her first choice, but at least she persevered, this makes her a believer in herself and Faith in others, Whatever she achieves at least she knows she gave it her all and she won’t give into failure. Bless.? xx

    1. So true Steph! As you would know, it’s difficult to watch as a parent, but rewarding when you see them growing and learning. xx

  16. Yes! Mistakes and failures are essential. Essential! I know our kids are much more resilient and stronger for the times we’ve allowed them to ‘fall’ when we could have saved them. So, so true in every facet of life.

  17. Yes! People get so focused on the OP-Uni track that they don’t realise there are SO many ways to get into uni – or whatever it is that they might want to do. I had no idea being lactose intolerant meant you couldn’t join the armed forces. Interesting. I guess it’s in the too hard basket for them.

  18. I allow Mr 6 to make mistakes and often gauge his reaction before I react to see how it has impacted him. I think sometimes with younger children we’re quick to run in and this can blow a situation out to be bigger than it needs to be. It sounds like you guys have the perfect balance with Miss 19.

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