With the new year, has come many challenges for us. Most of these challenges we have put in place to challenge ourselves, some have come to the surface without intention, but either way they have been healthy. Feeling fear is nothing new for me, but up till this point, fear has ruled the way I deal with things, now I am finding ways of sitting with fear and moving through it.
While on holidays over Christmas, The Builder decided he wanted to try something new, something we had not done before, something that would challenge us. We agreed on, a high ropes course at The Currumbin Sanctuary. This may seem unremarkable to most, but I am terrified of heights. I can’t even climb a ladder, in fact standing on a chair can make me dizzy.
What followed was one of the most amazing days we have spent together. Yes, it was super challenging, but the feeling of euphoria at the end was truly empowering. The day was not without struggle, and tears (from me, copious tears!) but the strength needed to complete the course sat with me for days after. I felt strong, I felt amazing, I felt I could attempt any challenge given to me. These feelings are often foreign in our day to day lives, but necessary ones to remind us that we can do it!
As I have mentioned, my daughter is moving to the UK in 27 more days. To do this, she must take 2 overseas flights on her own, something she has never done before. She will arrive at the world’s biggest airport and have to navigate her way to her next gate, pushing her own boundaries all the way. We felt it necessary to show her, just how strong she is and the high ropes course had showed us, that anything is possible, now it was time to show the kids the same.
When we took the kids on holiday the week after, we also included a trip to the high ropes course, and true to form, all tackled it with the strength we knew they had. Only myself and my step daughter, didn’t complete the black course, our 12, 14, & 15 year old boys took it on with gutso, one of them even completing it twice. My daughter showed great courage to acknowledge her fear and push through it anyway, and The Builder had a ball swinging from tree to tree chasing the kids along the way.
The result of this fabulous family adventure, was the opportunity as parents to be involved in the children’s success. In watching them grow in confidence and learn along the way. One of my favourite parts as a Mum, was watching them encourage others, and to help out where they could. I couldn’t be prouder of our kids, but most importantly they couldn’t be prouder of themselves.
This year for me, is about learning to understand my fears, but not let them control me, it is something I am keen to instil in our children now, before they become to accustomed to allowing fear to win. We will be creating many other opportunities like this one for our kids this year to push them and help them expand.
How have you felt the fear recently? How do you defeat fear? Any tips for what adventure to try next?