Working in the construction industry can be very challenging, and I have spoken on here a few times about how I have struggled with finding my worth and feeling inferior, but with some perspective and a few life lessons, I have managed to find my confidence again all while working in an industry that is typically not kind to women. Today I am sharing my tips, that will help everyone find confidence, especially when they need it most.
Finding Confidence, How I Find It While Working in The Construction Industry
Silence the Wolves
I’ve read many a self help book that spoke about stopping the negative voice inside your head, but how do you actually do that? All the times I first tried to do this ending in the relentless negative voice creeping back in, it was nearly impossible to silence the wolves that dragged me down. Then I read about another tip, I tried it and it truly works.
Submerge yourself in the moment, when you are truly submerged in the moment, paying attention to all that is happening around you in that moment, there is no space for those negative thoughts. This simple trick put an end to the wolves. My most difficult time to keep them at bay is in the silence in a drive to work, or on the way to school pick up, but when I put this skill into practice, and took time out to notice the colours of the cars going by, or what the car sounded like, sang the song on the radio, or noticed the wind in the trees, when I allow thoughts of what is going on around me to fill my head, I keep the negative ones away.
Give Yourself Some Credit
When was the last time you gave yourself a pat on the back, a high five, or said to self, job well done? Why not? Why don’t you congratulate yourself when something you have done is done well. I pat myself on the back for everything these days, I have become my own cheer squad. Woohoo I got the washing on, I rock, the dinner is on the table, how awesome, I got dressed today!
Start by giving yourself some credit for the small things, and very soon you will find you are able to give yourself credit for the bigger things. So much of what we do is amazing, remember when we were kids, and our greatest biggest achievement is learning to walk, or talk or eat solid food?!? Well why don’t we give ourselves a pat on the back for the smaller things each day. Such a positive way to look at ourselves.
Don’t Judge Others
This is such a big lesson, and surprisingly easy to follow. It is simple, don’t judge others and before long you wont even think about how others are judging you. I am going to be really honest here, at the risk of being slammed, I used to look at people and allow myself to put them in a box. She’s single, he’s a tradie, oops she’s a bit overweight. Although I am embarrassed to admit this is the way I thought, I actually think our society has conditioned us to think this way, and unless we know better, this is how we continue to think.
But do you know, that every time we step out, we are subconsciously thinking then about how others are judging us? The nature of the beast means that we are never seeing this as a positive. When you consciously stop judging others, your own subconscious gets a break!
How do you do it? The same way you silence the wolves, take note of the moment you are in, concentrate on only the good in what is around you. The trees are beautiful in the breeze, feel the air moving around you, sing your favourite song in your head, or out loud and proud.
You’ve heard it before, comparison is the joy thief, I want to tell you again how true this is! There will always be someone better off than you, with more money, better looks, more success, but you know nothing of the story behind that person and while you are busy comparing yourself to them or their journey, you are missing out on the happiness your own life is granting you.
Bringing gratitude to you life is a beautiful way to build confidence. When you take time to notice all that the universe has provided you, life is a far more beautiful place to be. I practice this by keeping a gratitude journal, and each day I take the time to write 3 things I am grateful for. In the beginning it was the big things, breathing, a home, food, and very quickly it became the hundreds of little things we have each day that get forgotten. The sound of my child’s breath, the rustle of the leaves in the trees, the butterfly that danced by.
When you are living a life of gratitude, the bubble you live in is a shiny, happy place to be. Please try it, get your kids involved, the lessons for them and the gift of giving this lesson will impact all your lives in countless ways.
A different style of post from me today. I hope that some or all of this resonated with you. Confidence is the most attractive part of a person, and gives us the ability to live a truly fulfilled life.
I would love to hear how you find confidence, how do you slay your wolves?
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